Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Psychological Invalidation Is Abuse

Below are a few of the many ways to invalidate another:  ·    Tell a person they shouldn’t feel the way they feel ·   Demand a person to not to feel the way they feel ·   Declare a person too sensitive, too “dramatic” ·   Ignore a person’s plea to connect ·   Judge and attack the way …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Always a Third Way

In my family culture, when someone or something displeases you or interferes with your agenda, it is treated with the gravity of a criminal offense and the source is dealt with and diminished at any and all costs.  Our family home was tense, reactive, hostile.  There was screaming, hitting, name-calling, threatening–all standard responses to aggravation and disappointment.  I assumed …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Dear Lord………

Ugh…my boys deserve much much more than they are being allowed.   Deep sigh.  I am more tired of this grief than anyone is of hearing about it.  The most painful part is that my family denies that there is anything to grieve and that my need to do so, is further proof of my deserved separateness, and …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Welcome to McDonalds

McDonald’s Drive Through at 3:05 p.m. Attendant:  Welcome to McDonalds.  What can I get for you today? Me:  Hi, May I please have a Southwest Salad with Grilled Chicken? Attendant:  I am sorry ma’am.  We are not serving salads at this time. Me:  Um..Okay….is that becaaaaaause it is not salad time? Agitated Attendant:  Yes.  It is …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

What Would Lena Dunham Do?

I had believed myself smart enough and fully capable of being treated with indifference bordering on disdain while maintaining a strong sense of self-respect. I was wrong also in thinking myself practical enough to separate what they say I am from what I know I am. I have allowed myself to be treated as disposable. …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

What Is Your Problem, Anyway?

I loathe everything about you. But please don’t leave before I banish you. And then– you will wait faithfully until your return is requested. Oh- And lighten the fuck up. Ok?   In this dynamic, I must stalk God like my life depends on it.  Because it does! Stalking God is especially Badass and totally wholesome.  100%