I have heard it said that “Forgiveness requires more than the intellectual commitment to do so.”
Years of seeking a definition that I can work with, I think I this is IT.
“Forgiveness means it finally becomes unimportant that you hit back. You’re done. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to have lunch with the person. If you keep hitting back, you stay trapped in the nightmare…”
― Anne Lamott, Plan B: Further Thoughts on Faith