But What if I am Gay?

It is ok to be GayEven saying “It is ok to be gay”, sounds arrogant. It is no different from saying it is ok to be black or tall or whatever.

Thank goodness I am not gay.  I barely survived my life as a straight, educated, tall, thin, and white-ish woman.  Being gay in a family where I experienced no sense of love and connection would have shortened my life by half—at least.  Same Sex Interest must be introduced as a part of OUR conversationS about love and intimacy.  My children are at or nearing the age where they will or already do feel attraction and I need for them to have some wisdom and compassion for not only their own experience, but for others.

With no same-sex couples or encounters in their lives or  via tv and movies, it is as if it doesn’t even exist or it is wrong and unspeakable if it does.  Lord have mercy.  Please help me to raise mindful responsible little boys who will know and practice good sexual citizenship and respect those who practice differently.  Please share anything at all.  People’s first response has been that they have nothing to share but then continue talking with me.   And the things they call “nothing”  are totally something.   The gravity of this opportunity to connect and share with my children what I am only just now learning for myself is immense and it is clear we are not meant to do this alone and privately.  I am listening and so are the children.  What are they hearing?  What are they not hearing?

There is so much more to this than I imagined.  Please click anywhere to join me on Youtube for my 3 minute clip.


So interesting that I have a person in my life who alllllways wonders and worries that she is or looks gay.  I think that is not unlike wondering if you are an alcoholic.  If you wonder if you are, you probably are.  Just saaaaayin.  There are worse things.  I know some of the most fantastic people who are gay or alcoholic and totally ok with it.  That is what makes them great—the being ok part, in their own skins.  I love this post by Glennon — her fearless expression of comfort with her truth.  This is what the world needs more of.

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Author: Magda Gee

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am new to the experiences of faith and hope and courage, qualities absent for me in proximity to my family. No Contact has been the way to keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part-- to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.

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What about being a woman who is constantly taken as gay? What about being her mother? What about the argument with your best friends, who have known your daughter all her life and still think you are naive or self-deluding, or deluded by your daughter, and you KNOW she is NOT GAY? And you know you are not prejudiced against gays – but now you have to question yourself and question yourself and WISH she had made other choices? This is not meant to be helpful to anyone, just to add another shade of blue to the picture. She loves… Read more »
How we are raised and what we are taught by whomever brings us up is the cornerstone of what will become a child’s, and then an adult’s, beliefs. Hate is not born, it is taught. I am fortunate that I was taught that all people are created equal and I had no right to hate another because they were different from me. When gay people are seen as the same as you and me, with the same wants, needs and dreams, only then will this world truly be a safe and nurturing place for everyone. When I knew that my… Read more »