Month: February 2017

Musings

Money-Not the Problem, Not the Solution

Money Is not my problem or my solution. Though it is nice when it is not a constant concern!!  When my boys were tiny and chronically ill with a father who could not be counted on to provide his share of costs, three different Trusted Others offered to $$ help, asking how much I needed?  There was no …

Acceptance, Faith, Musings, Self-Love

Fascinating and Affirming Article on Narcissism and Gas-lighting

The language of this  article feels so intense and psychotic, because this is intense and psychotic…and it is 100% my experience with my sister.  There is no answer or solution other than No Contact.  Sadly my 84 year old mother with cancer is her willing and enabling hostage.  Unless I submit to this, she will not see or …

Acceptance, Faith, Musings, Self-Love

Wake The Fuck Up

First off, I will say that yelling and saying FUCK is neither wholesome nor badass.  This is a point of departure for me, not my final destination.  I am a work in progress…Unlearning and reparenting myself requires revisiting the pain from the past which threatens to haunt the present if I do not identify and unhook from …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

The Games Continue

My sister hosted my ex husband and our sweet boys yesterday for lunch with my mother.  My younger son, so sensitive and aware, said to me;  “Mom, it is just not right.”  Agreed, It is not right.  I am powerless over the divisive antics and the affects on my children. For my sister and my ex, their connection is proof of being right, aligned in …

Acceptance, Faith, Musings, Self-Love

Kindness v. Friendliness

RE: Greg’s kindness:  S2 asked  “Is he that way because his parents are like that?”.  My response segued nicely into expansion of my own “family” experience.  Any excuse at all will do!  Feigning diplomacy, I shared how having grown up with the intense harshness of my childhood home left me lacking any understanding of authentic kindness and gentleness.  I still cannot help but marvel at kind, respectful, gentle natured people.  Intentional and undiscriminating kindness …

Acceptance, Faith, Musings, Self-Love

Speak Your Heart – Listeners Will Listen

Hello Friends,  I have recently discovered what I consider to be the perfect artist.  Perfect, maybe because she doesn’t confuse me- because each of her pieces is deeply personal and relatable with its aesthetic simplicity and raw emotional complexity.  It is not only  “fun” but moving; igniting my neeeeeeed for creative self-expression that connects, soothes, and stirs others, as …