Without spiritual recovery, I would still be trying to MAKE people, places and things be different from how they are. Irresponsible, childish, and damaging; attempting to be a God of sorts-very unwholesome, this I am unlearning and changing. In spiritual recovery, I am maturing emotionally, learning to accept the things I cannot change and to change the things I can. I cannot change a person’s behavior or attitude anymore than I can change the weather. However, I still have choices about where I place myself and to whom and what I get close to. I will accept that you “do/say that” and that it hurts me. Not a problem to solve; an unpleasant fact to accept.
For me acceptance does not begin with a feeling, it begins with me choosing behavior that demonstrates cooperation with a fact of reality, typically an unpleasant fact. For now, acceptance is a practice. Behaviors and attitudes are for changing, not other people. Detachment with love is for people whom I wish all the best and whose attitudes and behaviors are disrespectful and diminishing. I will totally love you– from over here. You don’t have to change a thing. You be you and I’ll be me….love that James Bay song. Let it Go. Letting Go is for Badasses. White Knuckles—umm, not so much.Much Love,
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