Month: April 2017

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Happy Mother’s Day

For Mother’s Day, I want for my mother to stop allowing and participating in activities that exacerbate tension between my ex-husband/father of my young sons and me.  Children suffer enough in divorce.  What sort of people knowingly and unnecessarily add to that?   We experienced miracles in our ability to work together as co-parents, prior to this.  Why …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Psychological Invalidation Is Abuse

Below are a few of the many ways to invalidate another:  ·    Tell a person they shouldn’t feel the way they feel ·   Demand a person to not to feel the way they feel ·   Declare a person too sensitive, too “dramatic” ·   Ignore a person’s plea to connect ·   Judge and attack the way …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Always a Third Way

In my family culture, when someone or something displeases you or interferes with your agenda, it is treated with the gravity of a criminal offense and the source is dealt with and diminished at any and all costs.  Our family home was tense, reactive, hostile.  There was screaming, hitting, name-calling, threatening–all standard responses to aggravation and disappointment.  I assumed …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Dear Lord………

Ugh…my boys deserve much much more than they are being allowed.   Deep sigh.  I am more tired of this grief than anyone is of hearing about it.  The most painful part is that my family denies that there is anything to grieve and that my need to do so, is further proof of my well-earned banishment, and overall …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Welcome to McDonalds

McDonald’s Drive Through at 3:05 p.m. Attendant:  Welcome to McDonalds.  What can I get for you today? Me:  Hi, May I please have a Southwest Salad with Grilled Chicken? Attendant:  I am sorry ma’am.  We are not serving salads at this time. Me:  Um..Okay….is that becaaaaaause it is not salad time? Agitated Attendant:  Yes.  It is …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

What Would Lena Dunham Do?

I had believed myself smart enough and fully capable of being treated with indifference bordering on disdain while maintaining a strong sense of self-respect. I was wrong also in thinking myself practical enough to separate what they say I am from what I know I am. I have allowed myself to be treated as disposable. …