Month: July 2017

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, poetry, Self-Love

Triangulation-How It Works

Triangulation can occur in any relationship, but it is very common in a relationship with a narcissist. It may happen at home, at work, with friends, or within in family of origin. He may pit you against another woman, several other women, his mother, his friends, or any other person he can get to engage …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Then You Win

To me, winning means I get to discover and choose to be my best me.  I get to strive spiritually every day, to live in ways that are right for my family(loyalty family, not blood relations) and unharmful to others, though perhaps unpopular.  In my family of origin, they do not make the distinction between …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

The Difference Is….

I think the most wholesome thing I do for my children is teaching and allowing them to experience and process their feelings, and to acknowledge that while feelings are not universal truths, they are real and not to be debated.  Trusted others do not debate the validity of your emotions or ask you to defend …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

How Upsetting for Children

Thank God for Restraint…….as I surely had none before program.  While I will no longer jump in the ring, the temptation to react to degrading comments is immense.  The boys’ dad just came with his sister to pick up our children, and I asked if the schedule for our Tuesday dinner visit had been changed. …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Children-Make Them Feel Loved

Tension persists as my boys’ father, actively defies our legally binding custodial settlement.  Feeling even more above the law, now cozy with my sister(married to a judge).  My ex’s continued withholding information regarding changes by him for plans with our boys during my scheduled time, as well as relevant health information is hostile.  He seems …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Love is Many Things, BUT Never Deceitful

I will begin by saying this is not my most wholesome post.  My wholesome pleas have been mocked and dismissed.  This is where I am.  Maybe tomorrow will be different. I am feeling especially sore as we approach the one year anniversary of the birthday dinner for my son at my sister’s home to include …