Month: August 2017

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Death Wishing and Hopelessness

As one who is not social, I choose social media to seek connection with others who relate. No matter how much friends and BF love me, they have vastly un-similar family experiences. On Social Media, I exercise my voice, words, and confusion of otherwise alienating experiences in order to connect with others doing the work …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

It is NOT NORMAL

Destroying children and families is not normal, I would argue. Triangulating with an ex husband and building a relationship on shared contempt for your “sister” is not fucken normal. No matter what. And this is just one of the observable acts. They used to have me convinced A) This is how things are handled by …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Are You Effing Insane?

People inquire: “Aren’t you afraid people will think you’re angry, impossible, and insane?” And the truth is many people have thought that about me, and for years I was those things from having not learned how to navigate such trouble waters.  My family relied on me reacting poorly to abuse, with insanity, so they could …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Stonewalling-How it Works

Stonewalling is a tactic commonly used by bullies wanting to control, humiliate, and frustrate a target who attempts to resolve a conflict through reasonable discussion or negotiation. Accusations of mental deficiency, harassment, and even bullying, are other typical methods of asserting dominance, intimidating the target, and discouraging objections to the abuse from both victim and bystanders. To the insightful …

Acceptance, Faith, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Relief Is Available–Name It to Tame It

http://www.janeclapp.com/attachment-deficiencies-and-emotional-hunger/ Living with lack of safe and secure attachment means we look for it until we find it. And, when we are particularly hungry due to lack of attachment food, we take what we find on the path. Our survival depends on it. That’s what our evolution has dictated until recent times. Not belonging to …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Truth Speaking–Amen

Definition of amen  (this is highly relevant) —used to express solemn ratification (as of an expression of faith) or hearty approval (as of an assertion) Dear Maggie,   I don’t know how many times we can tell you directly and indirectly, that the only problem is you.  You have always been impossible.   When people behave badly to …