Month: September 2017

J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Nope…I can’t

I cannot help but marvel as I observe so many people unable to give a clear and direct #NO I think the #fear #shame #guilt #aversion speak to the need to APPEAR 👀 easy going.  Keepin it chill– but #noresponse OR 4000 #excuses for why “probably(or even definitively)”  you cannot or will not do a thing, is #bullshit needless …

Acceptance, Faith, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

You Do Not Have to Stand for the Pledge

High profile people(athletes) taking a knee with hand over heart for the pledge and speaking truth to bullshit in peace and with love is breathtaking courage and faith.  The message of “I love my country and all of its people.  I believe in equality for all and that means taking a stand(knee) for those without …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Sorry Not Sorry

Recovery has given me back to myself.  Trying to grow up among people grimly determined to erase me or have me be small and to show only certain parts of myself– on demand, was the ultimate identity theft.  As I learn better, I do better.  I am surely and infinitely sorry and amending damage I …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Braving The Wilderness

Some people won’t love you, no matter what you do. Some people won’t STOP loving you, no matter what you do. Go where the love is. Unlearning, reparenting myself, redefining love. Love is kind, present, benevolent, unconditional. We are all human and fail at times and will blow it. When that happens, if we come …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

You Are Either With Me or You Are Against Me

In a recent work encounter, the one employee that had been there longer than I, frequently laughed(but not joking) “Somebody’s gotta lose and it aint me”  That is the culture of this particular environment.  I realized how familiar this dynamic is and observed her frequently taking the bait to jump in the ring with the …