Month: November 2017

Musings

Home is Where You Can Afford to Live–Right?

My sons and I have recently relocated to a family oriented community filled with children and amenities that support connection and ease of access to families and school aged kids in the neighborhood. I was going deeper into debt with each month that passed in our previous home within a small empty nester community, and …

Faith, Intimacy, Mindful Parenting, Self-Love, Trauma

Children Learn What They Live

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy. If children live with jealousy, …

Acceptance, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Count Your Blessings

Count your blessings if you find any peace and joy at all from being with family, ever.  Because for those of us who do not, it is very painful.  Holidays illuminate this for US, and do not undo or magically heal the decades of #abuse and #betrayal.  When someone, especially a family member, watches you get the beat …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Self-Love, Trauma

Paper Plates–The Cheap Kind

Today is moving day and my best friend of 40 years helped me pack but is physically unable to be here now. And Sweet Greg who also joined and calmed me from my urge to enter into packing hysteria, is away on a scouting trip…So physically, I am alone for the move. And yet, emotionally, …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Every Chapter Matters

To ask a person to selectively numb feelings or deny experiences is an unreasonable request.  And yet, it is the demand of nearly 50 years—as if time changes anything other than our age.  The past 2.5 years of living on the same coast with my FOO has been beyond re-traumatizing. And at some levels, I …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Musings, poetry, Self-Love, Trauma

Trojan Horses

So, when I visited NC 9 years ago for therapy session with mother and sister which went poorly and in which I miscarried, I, for obvious reasons, felt unable to rally for Trick or Treat neighborhood parade with my sister and her family.   I required time and space to rest and grieve the tragedy …