Month: December 2017

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, disloyalty, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love

They Belong Together

It makes sense that I married a man opposed to any sort of amending or resolving of conflicts and painful moments.   Not once, in the span of our short marriage, did we effectively address and resolve any issue.  If I brought up a need,concern or feeling of upset, it was met only with rebuttal, …

Acceptance, addiction, disloyalty, how is it going with your sisters ex, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Sweet Surrender

Yes, I am still talking about and working through this.  Healing and recovery are a process.  My sons and I recently had dinner together, with their father and grandfather, which is another freaking miracle- that my dedication to my sons is greater than my resentment of their father’s affiliation with my sister.  I officially resolve …

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, disloyalty, Faith, how is it going with your sisters ex, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Connection and Protection

As I contemplate, what specifically, I find so daunting, besides the obvious betrayal, about my sister and mother using my ex-husband to circumvent our issues: I realize that their lack of regard for creating an environment that promotes connection and a sense of safety and protection is IT.  Por ejemplo (the urge to speak Spanish struck suddenly …

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, disloyalty, Faith, how is it going with your sisters ex, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

It is Not About You

My sister would frequently snap:  “Not everything is about you” when I expressed anything difficult or needing.  And it made me confused in a sad and shameful way. Like it never addressed anything but the collective need for me to shut up and be different.  Under the guidance of my older sister, parents, and extended …

Faith, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Name it To Tame it

I remember feeling amazed to learn that there is a different formulation for chemotherapy depending on the type of cancer. I thought there was just a Chemo Recipe, and you got more of it or less of it depending on how advanced or widely spread the cancer was. I was also surprised to learn that …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Winners Change and Grow, Staying the Same is for the Others

I honestly had such flawed thinking and attitudes growing up.  I often felt the victim and would lash out, because in my experience with my family, I heard over and over how I made other people do and say bad things.  So naturally it stands to reason that, well, when I am forced into misconduct, …