Month: February 2018

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

The Legacy of Rage

I contemplated deleting my last post because of all of the evidence of my anger–having difficult feelings is proof of defectiveness in my FOO, and cause for dismissal or debate.  In my family of origin, I was the feeler, the over feeler, the overly sensitive one.  Unable to mask or deny pain, anger, joy, confusion. …

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, disloyalty, Faith, home design- home wrecker, how is it going with your sisters ex, humor, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Serves You Right

I was raised on this line…frequently when I reported something personally difficult, unpleasant, or painful: physically or emotionally, I was told “serves you right”.  The alternative response- a debate aimed at making me believe that I was imagining or misunderstanding my feelings and reality.  The comfort was, I also heard they S.Y.R -message directed at …

Acceptance, addiction, Faith, Intimacy, mental health issues, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Parenting and Power Struggles

My parenting game is NOT on point these days. Quick to jump in the ring with my son…I am not so unlike that defeated, blood and sweat covered boxer just swingin’ and hopin’ to connect. Neither dignity nor peace have been won in this way. Shit shit shit—healthy engagement has not been modeled for me …