Month: October 2018

home design- home wrecker, How is it going with your sister's ex, How tasty is that low hanging fruit?, Jilan Ghoneim Catherine Whitney, mental health issues, Musings

Communicating Truth

I prioritize the closeness and connection of my chosen relationships, holding zero regard for an illusion or status of having said “relationship”.  Life is both too long and too short to pretend. I have many swirling thoughts in need of sifting, from the last weeks of church and today’s meeting.  For now I have time …

Family Divider, home design- home wrecker, How is it going with your sister's ex, How tasty is that low hanging fruit?, Jilan Ghoneim Catherine Whitney

Aha!

I am now recognizing how, after moving here, if we would have continued as a blended, healing, fixed family with my FOO, my ex, my kids and myself, that would have kept me in some sort of center position, like I would have been at the hub, not in the driver’s seat, but the common …

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Happy Birthday ?

Thank Good Gawd Almighty for the most marvelous friend —who loves family, God, selfies, presents, fun, joy, travel, celebrating, and even me— to the end of the earth and back, she loves me.  Crying as I type that, because it is so damn special, the friendship that we enjoy.  Truly BFFs!  Yesterday was my 50th.  For …

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

How Do I Handle This?

The one thing I have most needed to know how to handle, is myself.  I am finally learning to do this– with love and compassion.  Only in recovery, have I been encouraged and taught to navigate and cope with difficult feelings and people.  With the fixed mindset that I was responsible for all bad behavior and …

Acceptance, addiction, dirty secrets, disloyalty, Faith, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, mental health issues, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Why Lie

Alone in the car with my younger son, today, I pretended to take credit for saying something fantastic, a quote which actually came directly from him.  He was like:  “Mawm,  I said that, not you.”  In all seriousness,straight-faced, I replied; “Nah-aaaaah, I am totally the one who said it.”  He was rightly disturbed- I admitted …

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Some Letters

Angry letters I would write and send if not for recovery.  I have anger, but it is not the boss of me.  I let it teach me and then I get to practice taming it. Dear Dad, I experience little conscious memory of you, only of the raging in our house and you bringing home …