Kindness Comes from the Kind-hearted

screen-shot-2016-12-06-at-9-13-12-pmA lovely couple, from two doors down, welcomed us to the community with a platter of warm, loving cookies-and have remained consistently kind-hearted, available, and interested. To me, this is both humbling and remarkable.  People often present as  “friendly” for the sake of the optical but are often simultaneously disinterested and unkind.

I am definitely not a friendly person by nature.  But– I have learned to be kind–not to be confused with: being social, people pleasing, or willing to hustle for my worth.  Lacking a need to be perceived as friendly, people concerned with appearances are threatened confused by me.  Trusted Others –recognize this:  Not always wearing a smile, I will help any person in need, without being asked and regardless if I like or “approve” of them.   Continue reading “Kindness Comes from the Kind-hearted”

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Courage and Vulnerability

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.
Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they ARE NEVER weakness.”  Brene Brown

I acknowledge, daily–that most people just aren’t into this.  In fact….it is frequently a highly judged deal breaker.  I am ok with not having deals with those threatened put off by “vulnerability”.  Option 1:  be judged as one who makes waves Option 2: swim with the sharks.  I choose waves over sharks.  My vulnerability serves well as a highly effective filter.  Trusted Others embrace vulnerability, their own,and others.

Vulnerability takes courage and is 100% BadAss!

 

 

This talk changed my life.  I love you,  Dr. Brené Brown.   https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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What Is Love?

 

Driving through Compton, my boys, knowing just enough about the area,  questioned a billboard boasting,  “We love Compton” inside a giant red heart.  Baffled, they asked–  “Why would anyone love Compton?”  The organic opportunity to explore and share my thoughts on love in the moment was pretty sweet– that love is not just for people and things when they please us or make us feel good– That just means we enjoy them.  The billboard is communicating that there are people who care for Compton and are contributing to better living for the families of a  struggling community.  Laughing, I added- “While I always want what is best for you, you don’t always make me feel good, nor do I always enjoy you.  But, I do and always will love you.” Continue reading “What Is Love?”

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Loyalty

Discovering loyalty, which, fingers crossed, will come bundled with learning to forgive betrayal-  is a BIIIIIG part of my journey.  Forgiveness is something I struggle to do the way my family demands grasp.  Or maybe I fully understand it and am ill-at-ease with the fact that my definition  not accepted, by those who do not accept me differs from those who think it means pretending It never happened. Deep sigh. Continue reading “Loyalty”

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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Silence

Not stoic enough to be silent or aloof,  I am practicing saying and doing nothing in response to underhanded invitations to enter into indirect conflict.  While I
now set boundaries for only myself, without arguing to be heard, my abstinence from standard entanglement is labelled abandonment—“cutting them off”  because that is how silence is used in my family.  I just say No.  Or Sorry that won’t work until it no longer makes sense to say it again.

So, I have mostly quieted my mouth, but my head still spins with all the things I wish to say or stop feeling and thinking. Silence with a trusted other is golden.

Continue reading “Silence”

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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A Narcissist’s Prayer

Wow…I think this is worth sharing–maybe not their prayer, just their story.  Always.

Narcissist's Prayer

Much Love,
Magda Gee

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