Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Fools Rush In

Because my mother is physically and mentally unwell, 84, and in the hospital, I am feeling twisted up inside, as if I should DO something. There is nothing for me to do at this time. My efforts to heal and build trust or connection are either swatted away like a pesky gnat or they go unacknowledged. …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Painful Dynamics- Repair or Release

My mother is in the hospital today having cancerous masses removed.  My sister whom I have not spoken to since May emailed the information to me.  I responded with a “Thanks for the update”  and signed with the little red heart emoji and an “m”.  My gut response was to be cold but polite…but then …

Acceptance, Altered Books, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Submission is for Jiu-Jitsu and Other Stuff

Recovery has taught me that I must be flexible with my approach or method but not with my needs and principles(which are static-not dynamic).  When I flex on my principles or needs, I get bent out of shape.  When I do not flex on my methods, I get bent out of shape.  Being mindful of …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Moving On is Acceptance

Without spiritual recovery, I would still be trying to MAKE people, places and things be different from how they are.  Irresponsible, childish, and damaging; attempting to be a God of sorts-very unwholesome, this I am unlearning and changing.  In spiritual recovery, I am maturing emotionally, learning to accept the things I cannot change and to change the things I can. …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, J Catherine ghoneim Whitney, Mindful Parenting, Musings, Self-Love, Trauma

Be Relentless: Eliminate the Poison in Your Life

We are not at fault, crazy, or wrong. We have a right to set boundaries and to insist on appropriate treatment. We can separate another’s issues from our issues, and let the person experience the consequences of his or her own behavior, including guilt. We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Love is Compromise–Not Submission

In our family, we have each been struggling with near constant unmet needs, and so we gathered around our lil table and are in agreement; we must work together- rather than begging, demanding, resenting, not having OUR WAY.  OUR family meeting allowed us to acknowledge our unique and often conflicting needs, commit openly to asking nicely for what …