That landed with me. Because I know I’ve created a space for secure attachment by being willing to repair. But it can’t exist with people who are what they call “conflict avoidant” but really are “repair avoidant.” It doesn’t matter how much I want to own my part and make it right—secure attachment isn’t possible with someone who won’t engage in repair.
I think about this with my children. Their father has never repaired with them. Never acknowledged his own wrongness or falling short. Because in his world, strong people don’t make mistakes, don’t fall, don’t struggle, and they’re certainly never sorry.
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