Wholesome Badass

Text reads: “Be cautious of connections that feel like home if home wasn’t always a safe place for you.” A reflective image representing emotional awareness and healing from relational trauma.

When the Story Writes Itself

January 24, 2026 No Comments

I can’t deny how “clean” and persuasive the narrative against me can look. That’s what happens when people of similar energetic makeup benefit from the

Overhead view of a chessboard highlighting a pawn in the foreground, with the queen and other pieces behind, symbolizing the contrast between visible power and hidden consequences in social and familial dynamics.

If X, Then Y: The Game Beneath the Board

January 23, 2026 No Comments

I continue noticing how this pattern shows up at every scale. We’re taught to admire extreme wealth as proof of virtue — intelligence, discipline, superiority,

Split image showing a smiling “good witch” labeled as how narcissistic personalities present publicly, contrasted with an angry “wicked witch” labeled as how they behave privately in close relationships.

The Binary: Invisible or a Spectacle

January 21, 2026 No Comments

Post-therapy processing. I keep noticing a painful pattern. When I speak directly—calmly, clearly, logically—it’s often received as aggression. Meanwhile, dishonesty softened with politeness, or harm

Illustration of Gottman’s Four Horsemen representing criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling in relationships

When Rightness Trumps Repair: Patterns in Diifficult Relationships

January 16, 2026 No Comments

I’m getting closer to being able to name and understand this pattern after friction or rupture in relationships with people heavily invested in their rightness