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Attachment Without Connection

I have been circling the relationship between attachment, connection, and repair. I understand now how it is possible for me to feel deeply—and painfully—attached to

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Ordinary Failure

The archetypal persona seems to move through every telling of their own life with access to explanations they do not extend to anyone else. When

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The System with No Name

For most of my life, I could see the individual friction points but not the structure they shared. I experienced them as isolated interactions. A

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