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The Pattern I’m Finally Ready to Stop Choosing

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:May 23, 2025
Post category:Family Dynamics Narcissistic Abuse The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Stonewalling breaks me. Stonewalling breaks me. I don’t bounce back from it. But I’ve repeatedly and predictably returned for more. Hopefully, for the last time. The silent treatment and banishment…

Stonewalling feels like abandonment masked as calm—a silent disconnection that wounds deeply.

Learning What Love Is Not

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:May 22, 2025
Post category:coercive control Narcissistic Abuse The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Drawn to the Closed Door I’ve come to understand something about myself, and it’s both painful and clarifying: I gravitate toward people who use silence as a weapon. Stonewalling—cold, controlled,…

Living With Trauma and Overwhelm

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:April 28, 2025
Post category:Neurodivergent Living The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Growing up highly sensing neurodivergent, I wasn’t seen as struggling — I was seen as willful and defiant, seeking control and attention with my needs. Survival meant submission — something I…

No Deal!

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 2, 2020
Post category:Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

In my family of origin and later my marriage, if there was a sure way to create tension, I did so effortlessly, though not deliberately, each time I openly experienced…