Posts exploring family scapegoating, golden child dynamics, sibling betrayal, protected family roles, triangulation, and the ways family systems can organize around one person as the problem while protecting another.
Me too. Not necessarily hashtag‑MeToo, but “me also”—and sometimes, yes, #metoo. Since I no longer attend live, face‑to‑face 12‑step meetings, this is my meeting. What I always got from in‑person…
If the people we looked to for love and protection imposed traumatic shame for our failure to conform or submit, that was a breach of their power. They were wrong.…
Having believed that “I. Am. THE. Problem”-- the designated cause for other people's shame, pain, hostile silence, cruel words, and overall mental health could only be relieved through recovery and repair.…
When you are raised having your words and feelings ignored, dismissed, challenged and twisted to be used against you, you may, as I did, dedicate much time to seeking the…