Posts exploring family scapegoating, golden child dynamics, sibling betrayal, protected family roles, triangulation, and the ways family systems can organize around one person as the problem while protecting another.
In connecting with other survivors of similar dynamics, I’m recognizing a pattern that seems less personal and more structural. In families and systems which rely on scapegoating, it’s apparently simpler…
An Ordinary Moment, a Trauma Response My lived experience offered no assurance that I—or anything—would be okay. At a subconscious level, I suspected I might have less trouble if I…
Friend: So you’re not in contact with your daughter anymore? Family Member: No, she’s just too much. Always some issue with her. Always making everything harder than it has to…
"Any time a small child gets labeled and referred to by a parent as too much or bad, that child/baby is actually being handed the job of covering for a…