Abuse is often framed as a 'loss of control,' but true loss of control doesn't have an audience. If someone is only abusive when there are no witnesses, they aren't losing control—they are exercising it. This selectivity is the clearest evidence that the behavior is a choice, not a mistake.
Beyond Conflict: Identifying the Patterns of Coercive Control in Family Dynamics
Coercive control is a strategic pattern of behavior used to dominate another person and strip away their sense of autonomy. It is not defined by a single violent event, but by…
