Harmful behavior converted into evidence about someone else’s character. Blame-shifting, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns, distortion, invalidation, selective accountability, and relational dynamics where reality gets outranked by narrative.
Motivational quote. All great changes are preceded by chaos. On yellow background.
My first full year as an official orphan (in which I was banished by literally every blood relative) truly flew and I am going out on a high note: -Cleanly extricated from a vexing arrangement with the ex -Endeavoring into a graduate program of study, purely for personal interest--and with all approved time off, necessary to attend class. -Approval has been granted for the Tuition Assistance Program offered by my company -Donated my blood today and loved it -And have…
Triangulation can occur in any relationship, but it is very common in a relationship with a narcissist. It may happen at home, at work, with friends, or within in family of origin. He may pit you against another woman, several other women, his mother, his friends, or any other person he can get to engage in his "victim-playing" who is willing to serve the role he assigns. He may also adopt the role of Persecutor to assign blame or Rescuer…
To me, winning means I get to discover and choose to be my best me. I get to strive spiritually every day, to live in ways that are right for my family(loyalty family, not blood relations) and unharmful to others, though perhaps unpopular. In my family of origin, they do not make the distinction between being unpopular and behaving in ways that are harmful. They retaliate at anything displeasing/irreverent to them, with action and words that diminish and degrade. My…
Keith Urban "The Fighter" I actually love this song. Because I feel so deeply and unconditionally loved by sweet Greg, after decades of believing that at a cellular level and since birth I am unlovable. It is one of my sister and mother's favorite things to illuminate. This song also makes me feel good because I am loyal fighter of this sort for my sons and my teeny lil tribe. I will not sit by while anyone diminishes or takes…
