The Matthew Effect
“For to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have an abundance.But from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away.” This…
Triangulation, Alienation, Gaslighting Children
THERAPIST: So you’re upset that your mom pointed out missed chores and unmet expectations — even after a few consistent weeks of you doing them without reminders? SON: Yeah. I did them…
Living With Trauma and Overwhelm
Growing up highly sensing neurodivergent, I wasn’t seen as struggling — I was seen as willful and defiant, seeking control and attention with my needs. Survival meant submission — something I…
Serves Her Right
In the family system/code that believes and says, "Serves you right," my boys seem to have been programmed to interpret my chaos, struggle, difficulty, and misfortune as proof of my…