For me, the crushing depression and anxiety engineered by the system kept stuck in survival mod.  Thus never able to self actualize. See Maslow’s Hierarchy.

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In some families, preserving the system can mean discrediting the person who points out harm. The scapegoat’s experience is often dismissed to maintain control and avoid accountability.

When Nothing Happens but Everything Hurts: Living With a Nervous System on High Alert

An Ordinary Moment, a Trauma Response My lived experience offered no assurance that I—or anything—would be okay. At a subconscious level, I suspected I might have less trouble if I…

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Read more about the article The Quiet Damage of Triangulation
Triangulation occurs when communication is routed through others instead of addressed directly, creating confusion, loyalty conflicts, and distance.

The Quiet Damage of Triangulation

Over the years, my children’s father, my mother, and my sister communicated and met without me. This alliance was formed in the shadows. There was no pre‑existing relationship between my…

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