Personal reflections on the painful experience of being divided from my children, and the complex family dynamics, grief, and confusion of ongoing loss.
In connecting with other survivors of similar dynamics, I’m recognizing a pattern that seems less personal and more structural. In families and systems which rely on scapegoating, it’s apparently simpler…
I can’t deny how “clean” and persuasive the narrative against me can look. That’s what happens when people of similar energetic makeup benefit from the same imbalance — the same…
Post-therapy processing. I keep noticing a painful pattern. When I speak directly—calmly, clearly, logically—it’s often received as aggression. Meanwhile, dishonesty softened with politeness, or harm delivered with a smile, is…
I’m getting closer to being able to name and understand this pattern after friction or rupture in relationships with people heavily invested in their rightness and entitlement, and equally invested…