Exploring the lasting impact of false narratives, character attacks, and being judged by a story written by soemone else.
Our attitudes are usually conveyed to other people by what we say and do–and how, if the attitudes really reflect what we feel. Gentle actions and soft, courteous words may only counterfeit our true feelings. We may even think we have overcome resentment, self-righteousness and self-pity, but if they are still there inside us, they will in some mysterious way emanate from us and deny what we try to convey by our play-acting.
I recently began (binge(ofcourse)) watching Mad Men after having attempted before but never fully getting into it. In true addict fashion, I went from zero interest to obsession. I admittedly…
After reading a comment by Jessica on my previous post, I did some pen on paper writing about my sister. Thank you, Jessica. I concur, it is time for "the…
On Saturday before Braziilian Jiu-Jitsu Class, we stopped for Chick-Fil-A( a huge treat, right?). My older son took one bite and said “I don’t like it”. Will you please make me burgerS with avocado and tomato when we get home from class? And this is how it goes. I always offer my sons foods they like, maybe not their favorites or the thing they are currently in the mood for, but never “offer” the two choices of: NO food OR whatever I provide you, regardless of what feels palatable (and with a
generous serving of shame and guilt for what a pain in the ass you are)…no matter the inconvenience. Sustained hunger, for us, creates difficult energy and unnecessary stress. The boys had a playdate scheduled straight from BJJ. S2 was ready because he ate his Chick-fil-A. S1 returned home with me for burgers with 
avocados and tomatoes. (Note: I totally get that what tastes delicious on one day may turn my
stomach on a different day, makes no sense, and yet—it is true.) Totally unreasonable things are often true!!! Have I mentioned my sister and my ex? Ach! Anyhoo,There is ALWAYS a third, often less convenient and totally doable way. Anything for my boys, within reason. Letting anyone of us become too hungry is guaranteed discord. Who needs or wants that? We can fight about so many other things, but not this. I choose the relationship over being food boss. (more…)