Post-therapy processing. I keep noticing a painful pattern. When I speak directly—calmly, clearly, logically—it’s often received as aggression. Meanwhile, dishonesty softened with politeness, or harm delivered with a smile, is…
I’m getting closer to being able to name and understand this pattern after friction or rupture in relationships with people heavily invested in their rightness and entitlement, and equally invested…
How to Alienate Others and Die Completely Alone A Working Draft Introduction I used to believe relationships failed because of misunderstanding. This is my attempt to document how I learned…
I am a survivor studying the wreckage, noticing a pattern.When a person is being harmed, a mountain of tidy evidence is demanded—transcripts, videotapes, witnesses, perfectly composed testimony—and even then, it…