Shut Up or Else: The Machinery of Control
Like a lightning bolt, it struck me again—how extremists cannot tolerate peaceful protest or resistance. To them, nonconformity is hostility. Resistance is war. “You are either with me or against…
Gaslighting, Stonewalling, and the Machinery of Control
Stonewalling and gaslighting feel like techniques intended to erase a person. To obliterate their spirit. Stonewalling is a tactic used to control, isolate, humiliate, and frustrate someone for attempting to…
When Victims Are Put on Trial
In their young efforts to comfort my despair over George Floyd, my boys offered this: “Mom, he did have meth in his system and had been previously arrested for armed assault…
I Refused the Illusion of Harmony
My steady refusal of gifts and staged harmony—in place of healing, repair, and honest connection—made something clear: I was no longer willing to bypass necessary mending. Real healing would have…