Author: Magda Gee

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Read more about the article The Cost of Challenging Toxic Systems
For a long time, I thought if I could just change enough, perform enough, or "get different" enough, the damaging dynamics around me would finally stop. I took on the blame because it was the only script I was handed. But that is the exact mechanism of shame. It does a fantastic job of making us shrink, but it has a zero percent success rate at actually healing us.
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

The Cost of Challenging Toxic Systems

The Sovereignty Tax (My Refusal to Bleed) I am 57 years old, and I am only just now learning the practices of sovereignty and radical neutrality. Until recently, no one…

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July 13, 2026
Read more about the article A Systemic Disregard
When your reality is systematically denied, you learn to turn the blame inward. You spend years looking for the "secret" to fixing yourself, believing that your anxiety, your fear, and your struggles are proof that you are fundamentally broken. But the truth is much simpler, and much kinder: Your body was simply keeping score of an environment that was never safe. The behaviors we used to survive weren't a sign of madness. They were the only tools we had to cope with a system that refused to see us. Reclaiming your own knowing starts with realizing you were never the problem—you were just trying to survive.
Family Scapegoating & Golden Child Dynamics

A Systemic Disregard

Someone once told me that the cruelest thing you can do to another human being is to label their suspicions as false when you know them to be true. It…

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July 10, 2026
Read more about the article The Difference Between Unworthy and Unmet
What if the absence of care was never proof of unworthiness?
Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

The Difference Between Unworthy and Unmet

Needs That Didn’t Fit When I was young, I experienced needs, feelings, fears, and sensitivities that did not seem to be commonly shared, openly discussed, or well supported. I seemed…

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June 2, 2026