Recovery has taught me that I must be flexible with my approach or method but not with my needs and principles(which are static-not dynamic).  When I flex on my principles or needs, I get bent out of shape.  When I do not flex on my methods, I get bent out of shape.  Being mindful of when it is time to flex and time to stand strong is key.  As a spiritually maturing person,getting to know myself; my needs are no longer preferences and desires that I hope for others to fulfill or validate. My needs are determined by me and not available as a matter for debate.  In work, love, and friendship, I have the luxury of choosing proximity to those who are mature and respectful enough to accept this.  This has been a deal breaker for my family of origin, who treats me as if my values do not exist or  matter or that I owe it to them to put myself aside for the sake of their preferences.  Now placing all of my faith and trust in a power greater than them myself, prohibits my submission to them.  I will reserve submission for Jiu Jitsu and “other stuff”  hehehe!♥

Not being strong-armed or shamed into abandoning myself has made me a whole person.  Being whole is wholesome and only for badasses.  Strong-arming and shaming is for a different kind of “hole”–A-hole!  Very amused with self today.  I think I will copy this drawing into my altered book later, but probably not “perfectly”.  The shapes seem simple enough.  Right?  Thanks for being here!