Posts exploring family scapegoating, golden child dynamics, sibling betrayal, protected family roles, triangulation, and the ways family systems can organize around one person as the problem while protecting another.
Ten years ago, around my son’s birthday, I was already trying to name something I did not yet fully understand. I sent my original email privately to my mother and…
At a very tense Mother’s Day gathering in 2016, I learned that my niece’s graduation was less than four weeks away and on the same night as a concert I…
Memory Memory can be unreliable. Interpretation certainly is. Two people can experience the same interaction and leave with very different narratives about what happened. What feels more meaningful to me…
My sons learned, by design, to have zero tolerance for their mother. Ordinary acts of parenting—direction, correction, consequences, even simple questions—were rejected and reframed as manipulation or control. I once…