Yearly Archives: 2026

How to Alienate Others and Die Completely Alone A Working Draft Introduction I used to believe relationships failed because of misunderstanding. This is my attempt to document how I learned they fail faster when you insist on a shared understanding. Proven Alienation Accellerants Step One: Take Everything Seriously Assume words mean things. Assume patterns matter. Assume what hurts once will hurt again. Respond with directness. Step Two: Ask for Clarification When something feels off, say so. When it still feels…

I am a survivor studying the wreckage, noticing a pattern.When a person is being harmed, a mountain of tidy evidence is demanded—transcripts, videotapes, witnesses, perfectly composed testimony—and even then, it is rarely sufficient. Meanwhile, the person with the well-fitting mask and an image to manage says, “I didn’t do it. The emotional person is clearly troubled.”And the world responds, “Okay. We believe you.” In a system where sucking it up and smiling is the only rewarded behavior, a reasonable question emerges:Who is…