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When Discomfort Is Handled as Provocation

A crowned man sits on a throne, rewarding a favored woman with flowers while directing another woman toward a dangerous trap labeled “Consequences.” The image illustrates favoritism, othering, and emotional violence.

I’m recognizing a pattern in the personality type I’ve come to call The Archetype: disproportionate retaliation in response to discomfort.

There is a swift intolerance for anything or anyone that appears to interfere with their ideas, preferences, plans, comfort, or agenda.

Frustration, inconvenience, disagreement, or a perceived lack of deference is handled as a provocation to be consequenced.

They justify their retaliation as a natural consequence of being provoked, while simultaneously denying they had been affected or reacted at all.

In this dynamic, labeling someone as troublesome and treating them accordingly takes precedence over acknowledging feeling threatened and dealing with difficult feelings.

Something is causing discomfort? Annihilate it.

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Magda Gee

I am in a program of recovery for those whose lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking, drug use, mental illness. I am newly learning faith, hope, and courage, practices not witnessed by me, in my childhood, with my family. Sadly, No Contact, as a last resort, is how I keep safe from diminishing words and actions directed at me. I think I have listened for the last time to how I deserve mistreatment. By holding out for something more wholesome and loving, I have been both banished and demanded to return. I prefer serenity to proximity. I will continue with my program and faith in the best possible outcome, so long as I do my part– to stalk GOD as if my life depends on it.