Yearly Archives: 2026

Read more about the article A Systemic Disregard
When your reality is systematically denied, you learn to turn the blame inward. You spend years looking for the "secret" to fixing yourself, believing that your anxiety, your fear, and your struggles are proof that you are fundamentally broken. But the truth is much simpler, and much kinder: Your body was simply keeping score of an environment that was never safe. The behaviors we used to survive weren't a sign of madness. They were the only tools we had to cope with a system that refused to see us. Reclaiming your own knowing starts with realizing you were never the problem—you were just trying to survive.
Addiction - Healing- Recovery

A Systemic Disregard

Someone once told me that the cruelest thing you can do to another human being is to label their suspicions as false when you know them to be true. It would be impossible to count the instances where my questioning led to the same responses: You’re crazy. You made that up. Stop trying to manufacture chaos.  It’s in your head. I don’t know what you’re talking about. Something inside of me shattered each time these sentiments were hurled at me.…

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July 10, 2026
Read more about the article The Fragile Structure of Happiness
Trauma, Recovery & Nervous System Patterns

The Fragile Structure of Happiness

I’ve been sitting with a word that has always troubled me, a state of "being" that feels out of reach: happiness. There seems to be so little capacity out there to make space for those of us whose life experiences haven't exactly been a gifted accumulation of things that make you say, yeah, this is good, I want to keep doing it. Perhaps the hardest truth to accept is that my upbringing never provided the raw materials or the architecture…

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June 22, 2026
Read more about the article The Difference Between Unworthy and Unmet
What if the absence of care was never proof of unworthiness?
Parental Alienation & Family Estrangement

The Difference Between Unworthy and Unmet

Needs That Didn’t Fit When I was young, I experienced needs, feelings, fears, and sensitivities that did not seem to be commonly shared, openly discussed, or well supported. I seemed to be more affected by things than many of the people around me. I had reactions, worries, questions, and needs that did not appear to have a place within the common experience. I did not question the environment. I questioned myself. When Feelings Became Dangerous What I recall vividly is…

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June 2, 2026
Addiction - Healing- Recovery

I Thought I Was the Lucky One: Love Bombing, Illusion, and the Spell I Mistook for Love

A year ago I ended a relationship that I had initially believed was the love of my life. I still kind of feel that way, even though being love bombed is technically not love. It is still my only experience of consistently feeling deeply known, completely seen, and ALSO safe and chosen. At long last, a glimpse of a life I wanted to live. I enjoyed more easy laughter, beautiful meals made FOR me — with full-on consideration for my…

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May 2, 2026