Read more about the article Image Versus Reality
Sometimes the most powerful thing in the room is not the truth. It is the assumption.

Image Versus Reality

There is a scene in Boardwalk Empire in which a priest is standing in a river performing a baptism. He is wearing white robes. He is smiling. He occupies a position of…

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Read more about the article The Protected Position
When the aggressor occupies the protected position, the injury is not limited to the original harm. The protection becomes part of the injury.

The Protected Position

Something began when I was four years old, and it was reinforced, repeated, normalized, and sustained over the course of decades. The injury wasn't only the abuse itself. It was…

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Read more about the article The Story Is in the Pattern
A single healthy tree stands amid a dying forest, reminding us that isolated moments can be beautiful, but patterns reveal what is real.

The Story Is in the Pattern

Sheesh. How many more times will I have to navigate this particular circuit before I have learned everything I can from it? It almost feels as though I have been…

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Read more about the article When Relationships Stop Evolving
Some relationships don't fall apart because of conflict. They slowly lose intimacy because conflict is never acknowledged, leaving no opportunity for repair. I've been thinking about how perfection, image management, and emotional avoidance can quietly replace accountability, making genuine connection increasingly difficult.

When Relationships Stop Evolving

I've spent a lot of time thinking about the c-word...."conflict " and also--avoidance and repair. The archetype, to whom I have gravitated to like a moth to a flame, seems…

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