Psychological Invalidation Is Abuse
Below are a few of the many ways to invalidate another: · Tell a person they shouldn’t feel the way they feel · Demand a person to not to feel the…
I Love Jesus
Shane Claiborne’s amazing passage on “a third way” feels as inspiring as it does devastating. I am facing but not yet fully accepting the reality- that deep healing and connection are not values shared by my family of origin (FOO). Awareness without acceptance is hell 100% . (more…)
The Matriarchal Family
Oh dear gawd, my mother, her mother, my aunts and my sister were the older females in my life. They treated me poorly and collectively agreed it was necessary. My…
Heaven Knows……
My mother’s cancer, age, aging still have not served as a magic wand erasing the effects of continued harshness, which is either not “real”(imagined) or is well earned; my due. There is no where to go with this, but to God and trusted others. It has been expressed that my imagined or well earned injuries could be served well by the correct medication. I think a little kindness and accountability would do the trick. But I am no trained professional. Believing my mental health or over-sensitivity as the only issue keeps them safe from having any responsibility to reflect on their contributions. (more…)