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Are You Effing Insane?

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:August 15, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

People inquire: “Aren’t you afraid people will think you’re angry, impossible, and insane?” And the truth is many people have thought that about me, and for years I was those things from having not learned how to navigate such trouble waters. My family relied on me reacting poorly to abuse, with insanity, so they could justify being abusive. Even if I am, does that make it ok to destroy my co-parenting relationship and to alienate my children? I do not think so. Now that I do not scream, swear, or threaten in response to being bullied, they are left only with their own behavior to contemplate…if they were capable or willing. I stopped offering the gift of distraction with my outrageous reactions, years ago. I learned to say No. Period. It was the beginning of the end. (more…)

Jeff Brown Wisdom on Spiritual and Emotional Healing

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:August 4, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

So many people get judged when they refuse to put their pain away. They get judged for showing it, for speaking it, for insisting on sharing their memories of abuse…

Then You Win

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 30, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

To me, winning means I get to discover and choose to be my best me. I get to strive spiritually every day, to live in ways that are right for…

Children-Make Them Feel Loved

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 23, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Tension persists as my boys’ father, actively defies our legally binding custodial settlement. Feeling even more above the law, now cozy with my sister(married to a judge). My ex’s continued withholding information regarding changes by him for plans with our boys during my scheduled time, as well as relevant health information is hostile. He seems hungry for a reaction, a lecture, or snarky comment by me. Not happening. I may however, say, in front of our children, “Hey, when making plans for the boys during their week with me, please talk to me about it first. ” #kthanksbye. The reason for saying it in front of them is so they may witness that what I say about him is what I will say to him, alignment of my words, actions, and principles!!! This is recovery and progress for which I feel immensely proud. From what I have read, the abuse that follows having a clear and sane boundary is standard reaction by those affected with NPD and untreated addiction issues. In my FOO and marriage, making a clear request or statement of my limits was always the beginning of a cold war. (more…)