Observing my family of origin from an emotionally safe distance allows me to see the extreme and intense ways of their day-to-day functioning. Frequent and casual but righteous use of the words: always, never, love,…
First off, I will say that yelling and saying FUCK is neither wholesome nor badass. This is a point of departure for me, not my final destination. I am a work in progress…Unlearning and reparenting myself requires revisiting the pain from the past which threatens to haunt the present if I do not identify and unhook from the myths of my childhood experience. (more…)
My sister hosted my ex husband and our sweet boys yesterday for lunch with my mother. My younger son, so sensitive and aware, said to me; "Mom, it is just not right." Agreed, It is…
In my upbringing I learned all about shutting down--trying to erase you or at the very least, make you feel erased when you differed from, or maybe even were similar to me, in ways that illuminated my imperfection wrongness.…