Destabilize Me, Then Call Me Unstable
When “Are You Okay?” Is a Warning, a Call-Out, Not Care Historically, my sister would frequently corner me and ask, “Are you okay?” But it wasn’t because she cared. It…
When “love” comes with conditions, scripts, and invisible walls.
When pain hits and no one is there to hold you—living with chronic pain, anxiety, and the weight of being unsupported.
The Pain from the Pain
Today, my back hurts—badly. But the pain itself is only the beginning. Almost immediately, I feel panic. That’s my second skin, my automatic response to discomfort: fear. Not just fear…
“But What Did She Do?”
Friend: So you’re not in contact with your daughter anymore? Family Member: No, she’s just too much. Always some issue with her. Always making everything harder than it has to…
Serves Her Right
In the family system/code that believes and says, "Serves you right," my boys seem to have been programmed to interpret my chaos, struggle, difficulty, and misfortune as proof of my…