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A reflection on how deprivation compounds—and how awareness interrupts the cycle.

My Trajectory- The Matthew Effect

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:February 3, 2026
Post category:coercive control Family Dynamics The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

The Path that Formed Me I didn’t “pick bad people.” I picked familiar nervous systems—people whose emotional vacancy felt like home, because that’s what I learned from the people I…

Visible distress is treated as a failure of character. Composure is mistaken for truth, credibility, and strength.

When “What Are You So Angry/Upset About?” Isn’t Actually Concern

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:February 1, 2026
Post category:coercive control dirty secrets Family Dynamics Surviving Narcissistic Abuse The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

I’m finally recognizing how validity gets measured not necessarily by the truth of what’s said, but by the composure of the person saying it. My sister recognized this dynamic early…

“If you’re not at the table, you’re probably on the menu.” Recognizing patterns of exclusion, scapegoating, and manipulation in families and groups helps illuminate how power imbalances and binary thinking target those who speak up or stand apart.

Dissent and Discipline: Understanding Family Dynamics

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:January 27, 2026
Post category:coercive control Family Dynamics The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

The Binary World I Grew Up In In my family, things weren’t simply liked or disliked—they were either the best or the worst. No middle ground, no “not for me.”…

Fifty Years Without Repair

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 4, 2018
Post category:Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

I have never—not ever, not once in 50 years—had a moment of resolution with my mother or sister in which each person owned their contributions to the situation. All initiatives…