What a mess! Healing is messy AF and wildly unpopular with those who are offended by the idea you have something to heal from. It is bananas.
Post-therapy processing. I keep noticing a painful pattern. When I speak directly—calmly, clearly, logically—it’s often received as aggression. Meanwhile, dishonesty softened with politeness, or harm delivered with a smile, is…
I’m getting closer to being able to name and understand this pattern after friction or rupture in relationships with people heavily invested in their rightness and entitlement, and equally invested…
I am a survivor studying the wreckage, noticing a pattern.When a person is being harmed, a mountain of tidy evidence is demanded—transcripts, videotapes, witnesses, perfectly composed testimony—and even then, it…
When Repair Is Impossible, So Is Security I heard it said today—and I’ve also read it—that secure attachment can only exist where people can be counted on to go back…