Independence Day 2017- Freedom from ……..

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 4, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Humor Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Waking up kid-free, people free, day off, with only my dogs and an invitation to join trusted others without a requirement to do so is niiiice. The fact is I need lots of people-free time to recover. Not to recover from the people I love(ok, well maybe a little from them) but to recover so that I have something good to give them, not just my 48 years of fatigue. I have been learning about trauma. A reality that is taboo, too obscene and scandalous to speak of, yet honest dialog is essential for healing, no matter how many decades have since passed. Time does not heal shit. Truth does. The knowledge of our experience is stored in our bodies. (more…)

PSA–Match.com Works When You are Honest

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:June 27, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Humor Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

The right one will know all of your weaknesses and never use them against you.

I have been meaning to share this experience now, for a while. Not only because of the immense pleasure it gives me but because I feel it might be of service to anyone still looking for authentic connection online. In late 2015, I posted a profile on Match.com after moving back East. Disturbingly, my ex husband appeared as my first match. Actually, it was funny, and at the time we were still friendly and working well together (dun dun dunnnn….before my sister’s campaign). (more…)

To Thine Own Self Be True

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:June 15, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Humor Intimacy Self-Love

So, over lunch, I conducted a survey on my sons and their friends, a highly evolved bunch….of course. I asked: “If you were at school and there were only two plates being served for lunch: 1) highly popular but not what you like and 2) an offering of something far less popular, maybe even unusual (They suggested swordfish) which you liked. What do you choose? You would be seated at the table only with others who chose the same food selection as you.” Brilliant response were as follows: (more…)

I know what I Bring to the Table

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:June 15, 2017
Post category:Acceptance Faith Intimacy Self-Love Surviving Narcissistic Abuse

I know what I bring to the table. So, trust me when I say: I am not afraid to eat alone. Sitting at a well set table positioned precariously atop decades of eggshells (unresolved issues) is something I do not choose. Submitting myself to that energy renders me physically and mentally unwell. Gathering for meals or “special occasions” should not feel awful. Right? (more…)