While on the treadmill at the Ymca, I locked onto E!’s Khloe Kardashian- Revenge Body. Seems like, with consistent safety, love, connection and support, people tend to achieve more. This is a huuuuuge differentiator– Those who DO and those who DO NOT grow up developing connection to god, family, community, and known innate talent or favorable attributes. Those blessed with any of these are the natural Badasses of the world, knowing and striving for their full potential–achieving greatness by their own internal measure–expanding natural talents and interests and seizing opportunities to give to and to serve–and not feeling the call to diminish others to elevate themselves. And there are those of us, who just want to be Ok, one day at a time as we discover our talents/interests and what it means to truly be of service, to get clear on who or what it is we intend to serve. It was not possible for me to recognize how to strive in these ways while obsessed with efforts to avoid given threats of despair. Despair was the only thing I had faith in, before recovery. Before faith, I had no models of, or experience with patience, acceptance, discipline, self-esteem, dignity, serenity.
Khloe’s nutrition, fitness, hair,wardrobe team not only physically transforms people whom are more broken than heavy. For the team’s
well paid ♥-felt and personal dedication rebuilds distorted perceptions of worthiness, lovability, and potential. Guests receive 360 degrees of support for their better body….in the name of “revenge“. Probably revenge is more appealing to Kardashian Fans and better for ratings than “self actualization”.
Maybe, after their 12 week journeys, Khloe’s guests will remain motivated to continue intentional living. In my recovery, it sometimes feels as though I too, am healing AT my family. My Spiritual striving is 100% for me and about me- They may be the reason I needed a program but I am the reason I remain in program. In recovery, I seek opportunities for expansion and reject those calling for contraction. In my family of origin, I receive the consistent and collective message to contract: Shut up. You don’t matter. As an adult, I limit myself to personal relations with those expect and solicit transparency and authenticity-expansion…those are the terms of engagement.
When I hear people say, “Nobody will ever love you more than you love yourself.” I want to ask “But what if you are raised to dislike and judge yourself at a cellular level? What if you are taught that you must hustle for your worth?” Brene Brown has dedicated much of her work to answering this. She and Danielle LaPorte are powerful resources for me in my journey to re-parent myself-to become myself. When I love me, what you think, fails to hurt or frighten me.
Expansion and self-actualization are SO Wholesome Badass. Very grateful for his work, I consider Abraham Maslow to be the original WBA! He helps to inform my choices as a parent, to break the cycle for myself and for my own family.
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