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I came to view punishment and shame as logical/natural consequences to being different displeasing. Great and collective effort was dedicated to reducing me to a more manageable situation. It is…
I came to view punishment and shame as logical/natural consequences to being different displeasing. Great and collective effort was dedicated to reducing me to a more manageable situation. It is…
CPTSD often occurs as a result of being made to feel unsafe because of your identity. Feeling powerless to change who and how I was, made me fearful, anxious, aggressive,…
Ruminating (ok, obsessing) on the concept of grace and how I feel nearly frantic (obvi) that my boys may not learn to value grace, as a way of being. Intentionally…
I created this blog to discover(through reflection an sharing) and reclaim all of parts of myself which had been erased-- or failed to develop as a result of learned distorted…
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Ok, I have no experience within those kind of systems. My lived family experience falls well outside any of the categories of healthy, healing, loving. How I remember my mother…
My inability to authentically love and be good and loyal to you was proof only of the work I needed to do on myself.YOU deserved love, nurturing, acceptance, protection and…
My homework from therapy was to write a letter to myself of what I would want my mother to say to me, what I would like to hear, what might…
In my family of origin and then later my mirror image marriage, assertive direct voicing of my own need, preference, or boundary was met with either dismissal, (like as if…