Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

But What if I am Gay?

Even saying “It is ok to be gay”, sounds arrogant. It is no different from saying it is ok to be black or tall or whatever. Thank goodness I am not gay.  I barely survived my life as a straight, educated, tall, thin, and white-ish woman.  Being gay in a family where I experienced no …

Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Let’s Talk About Sex-Please

Lately, it has become apparent that the conversations need to begin now.  Oh, how I want to impart healthy ideas about sex, bodies, love and intimacy.  But who am I?  What do I know?  Please join the conversation, spread the word.  Share your wisdom.  We must do better for our children.  With sex everywhere, we …

Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Happy People are Kind

At the terms “happy” and “friendly“, I cannot help but wince…no joke.  Parading as perpetually happy and friendly is a tool for perception management. The awkward Pollyanna posturing as easy going, free from difficult feelings, and unfortunate choices is just silly.  Happy is not a status. Me—I am happy when I am not required to pretend to be friendly. Hahaha I am neither social nor friendly-that …

Faith, Self-Love

On Khloe Kardashian’s Revenge Body

While on the treadmill at the Ymca, I locked onto E!’s  Khloe Kardashian- Revenge Body.  Seems like, with consistent safety, love, connection and support, people tend to achieve more.  This is a huuuuuge differentiator–  Those who DO and those who DO NOT grow up developing connection to god, family, community, and known innate talent or favorable attributes.  Those blessed with any of these are the natural …

Acceptance, Faith, Intimacy, Musings, Self-Love

Boundaries are for Badasses

Recovery invites me to have, recognize, and honor boundaries.  Boundaries- my spiritual skin.  I am naturally permeable and so without them everything gets right in and consumes me-leaving me full with other people’s information and needs, no mental space left for God or even for myself, only a need to invade someone else.  My spiritual skin keeps me as me and you as you, …