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uniformity v. solidarity

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:August 26, 2020
Post category:addiction dirty secrets Family Dynamics The Scapegoat's Perspective

"You are either in agreement with (like) us or against us." That mentality is the ancestral curse I am working to crush, one day at a time. Before recovery, my intense,…

Affiliations and Attachments

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 26, 2020
Post category:dirty secrets Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Because I was raised without healthy sustained connection with my care givers, I attempted to build an identity around attachments and affiliations- which would not ever satisfy my need for safe…

Kindness Is Not ConditionalI Had to Learn That Kindness Cannot Be EarnedKindness Is Not Conditional

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 23, 2020
Post category:Family Dynamics The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

In relationships, if it is conditional, it is not kind. Nothing was more confused and distorted than my early ideas about kindness and connection. For more decades than I care…

Shut Up or Else: The Machinery of Control

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:July 13, 2020
Post category:Black Lives Matter The Scapegoat's Perspective Trauma

Like a lightning bolt, it struck me again—how extremists cannot tolerate peaceful protest or resistance. To them, nonconformity is hostility. Resistance is war. “You are either with me or against…