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Clear Boundaries are not Grudges

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 21, 2018
Post category:Addiction Mindful Parenting Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Omg. I woke up thinking about exactly this. How holding a clear and healthy boundary, within my family of origin(and marriage) gets labelled “holding a grudge”. Hellooo ??? It’s not…

Our Mother Who Art in Heaven

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 17, 2018
Post category:Addiction Mindful Parenting Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Dear Mother, You must be pleased that I married someone emotionally and morally similar to you and to my sister? And equally contented that YOUR family shows unyielding loyalty to…

Pills That are Hard to Swallow

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:December 16, 2018
Post category:Addiction Mindful Parenting Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

Trying to surrender my current prayer of “Make it fucken stop” for “PLEASE ?? Help me become willing to accept the things I cannot change and to just love the hell out…

Walls or Bridges

Post author:Magda Gee
Post published:November 24, 2018
Post category:Addiction Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Trauma

While I am enjoying the peace and slow pace of an undemanding Thanksgiving Break for myself, my heart is so fucking heavy from what family occasions do for my older son. Especially sensitive(always deeply concerned that someone is angry with him), he struggles daily with wanting to “please” both his father and me. I do not need for him to hustle or to please me. To be kind, honest(not just speaking words factually related to truth but intentionally matching actions to words, no matter who is present), and courageous is what I preach. Three out of the four of these are in direct conflict with the expectations of his father and extended family. The tension between (us) his mom and dad (escalated by my own “family’s” presence and agenda) affects him daily and deeply. (more…)