No matter how many times it was demanded I lighten up, calm down, go with the flow and get over it, I just still did not.
I continue noticing how this pattern shows up at every scale. We’re taught to admire extreme wealth as proof of virtue — intelligence, discipline, superiority, deservingness. The story goes: They…
Post-therapy processing. I keep noticing a painful pattern. When I speak directly—calmly, clearly, logically—it’s often received as aggression. Meanwhile, dishonesty softened with politeness, or harm delivered with a smile, is…
I’m getting closer to being able to name and understand this pattern after friction or rupture in relationships with people heavily invested in their rightness and entitlement, and equally invested…
I am a survivor studying the wreckage, noticing a pattern.When a person is being harmed, a mountain of tidy evidence is demanded—transcripts, videotapes, witnesses, perfectly composed testimony—and even then, it…