No matter how many times it was demanded I lighten up, calm down, go with the flow and get over it, I just still did not.
In some families, preserving the system can mean discrediting the person who points out harm. The scapegoat’s experience is often dismissed to maintain control and avoid accountability.
An Ordinary Moment, a Trauma Response My lived experience offered no assurance that I—or anything—would be okay. At a subconscious level, I suspected I might have less trouble if I…
Triangulation occurs when communication is routed through others instead of addressed directly, creating confusion, loyalty conflicts, and distance.
Over the years, my children’s father, my mother, and my sister communicated and met without me. This alliance was formed in the shadows. There was no pre‑existing relationship between my…
For anyone who has ever mistaken being pursued for being valued — you weren’t chosen. You were targeted. I wish I had known this sooner.
Loving the Hologram: A Season of Letting Go This season—honestly, my entire life—has been one of loss and unraveling. And I feel self‑conscious about that, because in a world low…
One turn could change everything. Repair is what makes connection possible.
When Repair Is Impossible, So Is Security I heard it said today—and I’ve also read it—that secure attachment can only exist where people can be counted on to go back…
